I don't claim to be the ideal male feminist saint or whatever, and I hate to lecture people, but jeez, how hard is it to have some basic manners? Okay, I'm no saint on the manners front either, at least in certain areas. But when it comes to areas that involve me, a guy, talking to non-guys, especially in the midst of controversial gender-related discussions, I like to be a little aware of what it sounds like when a guy says things like the following to a woman:
Gene Kwak at The French Exit:
yeah. here's the thing. that magazine is solely my baby. i really don't give a
fuck if you and your forehead and your paisley wall get pissed.
Blake Butler at htmlgiant:
Sorry I started this thread.
Shut up and write.
Reynard Seifert at Amy King's Alias:
i’m sorry that it’s not the seventies and you ladies missed the revolution.
really, that would’ve been sweet. but i wish you would stop making tigers out of
Jereme at htmlgiant:
why is there any reaction looking at a list of “male” names in a journal? why do
you not have the same aggressive reaction towards other patterns, red and white
you people have such bullshit expectations. everything is not
the way you want it to be.
Yeah, now technically these are out of context. If you want the context you can click the links. Sure, some of these guys went on to "clarify" themselves in other comments, but it doesn't matter. Even if you have a legitimate argument somewhere, the only thing rudeness accomplishes is to make you look like an asshole. (I would know! I've made myself look like an asshole on plenty of blogs.) I mean, telling a woman to "shut up"? What is this, the "internet literature magazine blog of the 1850's"? It's mean, sexist, unhelpful, and it makes the rest of us guys look bad.
Also, why is it that guys are eager to shit-talk women on their blogs, but not, apparently, when the same pro-feminist opinion is expressed on a man's blog? (Hint! Hint!)