Bold, foolish, unselfconscious gestures seem necessary to me. If you're wise you might not commit such gestures, but I'm not sure you'll be happier. It's often a letdown when after contemplating some release of emotion I "think better of it" and keep my mouth shut. Then again, opening your mouth can indeed cause greater problems than you had to begin with. There are just some situations in which neither action nor inaction will bring comfort. I guess I shouldn't be surprised that's the way things are.