Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Deciding to just be [redacted] my entire life without [redacted]—is that feasible?

Saturday, November 27, 2010



So, yeah. Got an awesome hat. I believe it's what they call a trilby. The best part is that even though I bought it on "Black Friday", it was not on sale. That feels good. I also went to Housing Works Bookstore, where you never feel guilty about spending money, since it all goes to fighting AIDS and homelessness. What did I find there yesterday? I found Love Invents Us by Amy Bloom, Under the Small Lights by John Cotter, Walks with Men by Ann Beattie, and The Frequencies by Noah Eli Gordon. The last is signed and inscribed, "For Sasha, whom I know in the New Yorker & the blog world—thanx for all the music tips! Best, Noah". At the top of the page he drew a boombox and the date, 8/17/04.

Housing Works is great like that—it's relatively small, and if you go in looking for a specific book, especially an obscure "indie lit" book, you probably won't find it, but if you browse without looking for anything, you'll often find the most unexpected who-knows-whats.

I'm going bowling in three hours and one minute. Really, really, really hoping I impress a lot of cool people with my awesome hat. I'll let you know later how that turns out.

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Friday, November 26, 2010

Bold, foolish, unselfconscious gestures seem necessary to me. If you're wise you might not commit such gestures, but I'm not sure you'll be happier. It's often a letdown when after contemplating some release of emotion I "think better of it" and keep my mouth shut. Then again, opening your mouth can indeed cause greater problems than you had to begin with. There are just some situations in which neither action nor inaction will bring comfort. I guess I shouldn't be surprised that's the way things are.

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

A friend of mine made these graphs of my two most recent poems. The bottom one is a pH scale, if you can't tell. Scroll down to read the poems. Pay special attention to the graph of the last line of the second poem. Pretty neat, eh? I want to do some myself now!


Let me ask you this...


What are your thoughts on open relationships/marriages? I asked this on Twitter a few days ago but no one seems to have noticed. I come from the Whatever Works school of relationship philosophy, so yeah, open marriage? I'm all for it, if it works for you. I'm just curious about what some of you might think. Are you in an open relationship? Do you know anyone who is? Do you think they're seen as "abnormal"? Do you, or would you, see them that way? I mean, how much of a taboo is it in the year 2010? Do you think people in open marriages are looked at with the same kind of fascination/judgment with which people view polygamy?

From the Department of Non-rhetorical Questions (DNQ)


Who should pay on a first date? I'm particularly interested to hear from women on this.

Monday, November 22, 2010

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've been getting reacquainted with Star Trek: Deep Space Nine, still the most underrated Star Trek series, I think. I love watching the actors most of all. No matter how popular their shows were, Star Trek actors' careers never seem to take off into "bigger and better" things after the shows end. (With the exception of Patrick Stewart, of course.) They all just seem to end up doing B-movies and minor guest roles on Law & Order. Terry Farrell was on Becker. (Remember? Didn't think so.) The rest ended up on Boston Legal, which was a great show, but gone now. But hey, maybe they don't want bigger and better things. I'm sure a lot of them are doing smaller things that they enjoy, like theatre. Anyway, I just love the endearing B-list charm of your typical Star Trek cast member. Nana Visitor (Major Kira on DS9) is particularly fun to watch. (Did you know she's Cyd Charisse's niece? I didn't, but I do now. Thanks, IMDb.) As a kid, I think I found her kind of annoying. But, you know, that's her character. I realize that now.

It's also great to see Avery Brooks (Commander (later Captain) Sisko) again. He's from Indiana, I learned about an hour ago. Apparently his relationship with the show behind the scenes was sort of contentious at times—he wanted to quit halfway through its run—but you would never know from his performance. A great actor playing a great character.

Did you know that Cirroc Lofton (Jake Sisko, Captain Sisko's son) is former major-leaguer Kenny Lofton's nephew? (I doff my hat and bow at your altar, IMDb.)

Oh, and Rene Auberjonois (Constable Odo on DS9, Paul Lewiston on Boston Legal)—his mother was a princess. Princess Laure Louise Napoléone Eugénie Caroline Murat. "On his mother's side, Rene is descended from Joachim [Napoléon] Murat, King of Naples and King of Sicily, formerly Grand-Duke of Berg and Kleve, and his wife (Marie Annonciade) Caroline Bonaparte, sister of the famous Napoleon."

Damn.

Friday, November 19, 2010

Went out with a married woman last night. (Open marriage.) This is going to be fun. We're going bowling!

Thursday, November 18, 2010

The internet is really boring lately. Twitter is the only site where clicking refresh makes it more interesting. Facebook could work that way too if I had more interesting friends. Just kidding, friends.

The windows I have open right now are:

Grooveshark
Gmail
StatCounter
Twitter
Facebook
Goodreads
OkCupid
Salon (Nerve) Personals
this Blogger window
Google Reader

I would also have Flickr open but it's sort of the off-season for street photography. Sure, you can take pictures in the cold, but that means you'd have to be in the cold. Not unthinkable, but it sure affects your motivation.

Still trying to think of a book to review.

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Sometimes they're into you and you're not into them, and other times you're into them but they're not into you. Hard to feel sorry for yourself about the latter when the former is fresh in your mind.

Monday, November 15, 2010


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"I have not written a short story for many years. It seems to me a young writer's form, made for discoveries and nuances and epiphanies and superbly adapted for trial syntheses." —Wallace Stegner

Sunday, November 14, 2010

I can't find a single book that I want to write about. Or that I would be qualified to write about, rather.

Friday, November 12, 2010

Do you take notes while reading? I've never done this, and I'm not sure how it would work, logistically. It seems to me that you would need three hands—one to hold the book open, one to hold the notebook you're writing in, and one to hold your writing utensil. (This is assuming your notebook isn't the kind that can lie flat and stay open by itself. I use Moleskines or their generic equivalents.)

Thursday, November 11, 2010


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Happy Veterans Day, Miranda!

Apparently white bread is made from wheat. Am I the only one who didn't know this? If all bread is wheat bread, why is some bread labeled "wheat bread", implying that all other breads are not wheat? What about rye bread? I love rye but I don't like wheat, or "wheat", I guess I should say. Why don't these other breads taste like wheat if they're made from wheat?

Thursday, November 4, 2010

I'm genuinely curious as to how someone in a (happy) relationship could ever experience loneliness. I'm not expressing skepticism that this is possible. I believe it when people say it, but I really am curious.
Jealousy isn't much fun when the people you're jealous of are good people and have done nothing wrong. This causes frustration. Frustration is the worst aspect of any situation in which it occurs. I think frustration always has something to do with proximity. Two things that "should" be together but are separated by a thin sheet of tempered glass. Or whatever it is computer screens are made of.

Monday, November 1, 2010

The reason I can start November fresh with a new book is because yesterday I finished this one, Look at Me, by Jennifer Egan. It was so good I dropped almost everything else I was reading and managed to finish it in under four months. It goes back and forth between two intersecting storylines, one in New York and one in Rockford, Illinois. It's very cinematic. Highly recommended.